About

Hi! I’m Kate — happily married for 20 years thanks to intentional dating, not games.

I started this blog because I watched too many smart people waste time on “maybe” relationships. I didn’t get lucky. I got clear. I dated with purpose, asked real questions, and chose a partner who showed up. Two decades later, I’m still convinced: intention is the shortcut. Games are the detour.

If you’re here to casually hang out and collect funny stories, enjoy your era. Truly. But this corner of the internet is for people who want to meet their forever person and build something solid.

What I Believe

  • Clarity is romantic. Confusion is not.
  • Consistency beats chemistry long-term.
  • Values alignment is the ultimate green flag.
  • Boundaries protect your peace and your future.

What You’ll Find Here

  • Simple frameworks for first dates, second dates, and decision points
  • Copy-and-paste scripts for texts, boundaries, and define-the-relationship talks
  • Checklists and prompts to spot real compatibility: money, faith, family, lifestyle, timelines
  • Stories and lessons from 20 years of marriage and the intentional dating that led there

My Dating Philosophy

  1. Know yourself first. Get clear on non-negotiables.
  2. Lead with curiosity. Ask real questions early.
  3. Match character, not just chemistry. Attraction opens the door. Integrity keeps it open.
  4. Choose reciprocity. Effort should be mutual and visible.
  5. Decide on data. Look at actions over time, not potential.

Fast Facts About Me

  • Married: 20 years and still laughing.
  • Favorite green flag: consistent follow-through.
  • Ideal first date: coffee + a short walk. Simple, honest, no theatrics.
  • Superpower: turning awkward moments into clear language you can actually use.

How I Can Help

  • Grab the Intentional Dating Starter Kit: values map, first-date questions, 30-day plan.
  • Read the no-fluff guides on spotting effort, pacing intimacy, and having brave conversations.
  • Join the weekly newsletter for one quick tip and one small action you can take now.

A Note From Me To You

You’re not looking for a plus-one to your boredom. You’re building a life. Date like it matters. Ask for what you need. Walk away from what doesn’t align. That’s how you meet your forever person.

Welcome in. Let’s be intentional and make it last.